Porn Star Advice: Dealing with the Haters

Every once and awhile models ask me for advice. I have no idea why. I guess it's because I'm a good listener, and I've worked for a long time both in front and behind the camera. I recently got an email from a model, and after I answered him, I realized this might be a new thing to blog about.... Granted, I don't believe I'm a guru in any way, but I do have the ability to not get bothered by much, and to make light of a bad situation. So here it goes piglets..... Porn advice via Dear Race.
Dear Race,

Hey... I have a question and I was wondering if you can tell me what you think. I've had a few blog posting comments sent to me from some people, and I've read a few on my own and I'm noticing more and more how people are ripping me apart on these blogs and forums. I'm getting some good feedback, but other times I'm seeing people being complete dicks and criticizing me for everything. Is this normal? Has the same thing happened to you in the past? I'm trying not to take it personally, but I can't help but wonder if this is reflective of something I am doing (or not doing) in the scenes I have done. What do you think?

LV


Dear LV,

I'm afraid to say it's very normal, unfortunately. Blame it on the anonymity of the internet, whatever. It's the double-edged sword from being in the industry. Fans will put you on a pedestal and treat you like a god, others will make snarky disgusting comments that they would never do to someone, face to face. You have to take all comments, the good and the bad, with a grain of salt. Don't waste too much time listening to any of it. Say thank you for the good comments, ignore the insults. There's nothing worse that you can do (for your porn career), but to answer back on some piss-ant fucker who writes bile, just to see their words in print. You can never win an online war... so the best thing to do is just ignore them. Otherwise they know they've gotten to you, and it helps promote and elevate them, and their useless and hate filled vitriol even more.

It happened to me a great deal, when I first began.... Not as much anymore. Once people notice you have a thick skin, they seem to give up. This has absolutely nothing to do with you, or what you are doing. Let me make that clear. It's really just... sour grapes. Don't write about or reply to comments. Don't bring anymore attention to them. It's their 15 minutes, and it's sadly all they have. Listen to your friends, they know you more than anybody.... and they'll probably say, that you're doing a great job, and are nothing short of fabulous. :)

Nerdalicious!!!!

Hey Piglets! I'm excited.... not just because my HOT NERD night is taking off, but because the buzz is happening faster than I can hype it myself.... God bless the internet, and all the godless things that are on there! Today I got a surprise that I had to share.... a friend of mine who loves hot nerds, told me that his brother had a clothing company in New York that produces HOT NERD t-shirts....Fucking RAD! So, this morning I got my very own HOT NERD t-shirt thanks to friends at mynoblethreads.com! Also, I'm having a blast making new images for HOT NERD, they keep getting better and better as time goes on.... Major thanks to Michael Smith for all his hard work on them.... And Piglets... if you're in SF on the first Saturday of the month, you don't want to miss HOT NERD... It is in my humble opinion.... fucking amazing ass shit!

Oink Alert! Dog Fight makes me a... very bad puppy.

WOOF! I mean.... Drew Cutler, eat your fucking heart out. Piglets... I've never been into puppy play, but Tony Buff has made me into a convert. And what better way to bait me, then with the sexy ass meat of Wilfried Knight! Truly, this is a scorching hot scene.... one of the best of my career. And I gotta thank Tony for coming up with a cool scenario for fetish.... Acting like a bad-ass dog was fun, wearing a dog tail butt plug was fun, and fucking the hell out of Wilfried Knight... was over the top!!! Check it out , here... .or on the sidebar under movies. Grrrrooowlllll!

J'adore Paris!

It's one of those things that shouldn't mean that much.... but for me it does. Ya see.... I've been doing the porn thing for two and a half years.... been on lots of DVD box covers, had articles written about me, been on radio, modeled for stores, promoted my own party, won awards.... but have never, had a magazine cover. Until now. So.... I have to say a really big.... Merci Beaucoup to Wank magazine in Paris..... Love you guys!!! Tu es magnifique!!!

RSVP Race Cooper #6

Holy shit, piglets. Has it truly been that long since I answered your questions??? Well, shame on me.... in fact feel free to call me a good-for-nothing-lazy-whore.... I mean it won't affect me, and i've been called worse by family, but you might feel better! Now... to extend those good, happy, vibrations... let's get going on answering your questions. Here. We. Go.

1. Was BoundGods your only BDSM bottom experience on camera?

To date... yes. Most of my BDSM on camera has put me as the dominating force.... guess it's just typecasting. However, I have been talking with Tony Buff a great deal to shoot another scene in which I'm the sub. Stay tuned!

2. You are a very handsome man. Do you ever travel to Chicago??

I do, and thanks. At least once a year for IML/Grabbys on Memorial day weekend I visit the windy city. I was just there, where were you?

3. Barca is your "boyfriend"? I thought I read that you were domestically partnered with someone else at some point. Did I miss something? GGT

Hey GGT... it's correct that Felix Barca is my boyfriend. And you were also correct that I was married. I just didn't mention it on my blog when I got separated and filed for divorce... because break-ups are hard enough, without everyone on the internet commenting on it. Although I love sharing my life with my fans, there are some things I am adamant about keeping private. Which includes the people I care most about.

4. Do you ever do any escorting?

Hmmm... you know I tried it for a short while this year. But can't say I liked it too much. It's easier to connect with someone on a sexual level when you're attracted to them. Don't know if I'll ever do it again... but at this point.... I don't think it's for me.

5. You need some pit action in your vids, are you ticklish? Any movies with your pits licked?

Really? I thought I had a lot of pit action going on... I'm sure there was licking of pit, in a great deal of movies. But I can't remember at this point which ones have it, and which ones don't. Also.... Not ticklish at all. Sorry.

6. I saw a movie with you enjoying piss. Is that something that you enjoy in your personal life, and can your participant in these activities kiss afterwards with no problem?

Watersports is something I definitely enjoy in my personal. And I never have a problem drinking piss and kissing afterwards... nothing like swapping spit and piss at the same time.

7. I would love to see you play Space cadet from Patrick Fillion's Boytoons... that would be f-ing hot.

Great idea! I'm all for it!

8. When will you do another performance at Nob Hill?

Have yet to book another appearance at Nob Hill... but I'm sure I will do it again. It was a great time, and everyone there was great to work with! :)

9. How often do you shave your balls?

Once a week... like to make them look smooth. Like eggs.

10. What is your favorite thing to do on a Friday night?

Smoke weed with my buds.... watch a movie, or go to the local watering hole for a drink. It's usually something low-key with my buds though.

11. How do you maintain your physique?

It's pretty much working out for an hour and a half, five to six times a week. I have a personal trainer who pushes me hard now, and luckily for me, my body responds because of my genetic make-up.

12. What can I do to have a BIG and long dick?

Surgery. But I'm no plastic surgeon.... so I'd have to defer to my friend who is one..... Oh, he says I'm right. Surgery.

13. Do you like German guys?

Yes, I like German guys.... They seem to like black guys a lot, and I can get away with anything when I'm with them.... those little German piggies are relentless!

14. Hey Mr. Cooper, my name is Coolcab out of Brooklyn, NY. I was wondering when are you going to be in the NYC area? I would like to meet you, if possible.

Usually make it to NYC twice a year. I was there recently in March for Black Party. Hopefully I will be there again this year for Hustlaball... stay tuned!

15. I'm a proud citizen of Durban, South Africa. You seem to be fond of weed, so I had to ask if you've ever tried some Durban Poison? Also, your body is stunning; what, and how much cardio do you do? Paul

Hey Paul! Thanks for so much for the compliment! I don't do a great deal of cardio. I'm lucky because my body has a fast metabolism... and I also tend to do a lot of running around work wise. As for the Durban Poison, never tried it. I sampled a lot of stuff when I was Amsterdam earlier this year, but Durban wasn't on the list. I'll have to try it at some point..... love my weed!

16. Have you ever turned somebody out without ever fucking them, man or woman?

Hmmmm.... Not familiar with that phrase of 'turning someone out'. But if I could guess at what you meant... does that mean I made someone fall for me, without fucking them? Yeah, I did. Not intentionally. A married guy I worked with long ago, confessed to me that he later divorced his wife, because he had had a crush on me for a year... and had to come to grips with his attraction. That... blew me away.

17. Would you have sex with an older man.... like 40, 50?

Sure thing. I'm not an ageist.... Hot is hot.

18. Have you ever had sex with a trans?

Nope, never did. Am I curious to? Yep.

19. Do you love bubble butts? Which pornstar has the nicest?

I do love bubble butts... When it comes to pornstars with the nicest... it's a toss-up between Ty Lebeouf and Shay Michaels.... Fucking Deelish!

20. Have you ever had sex in a public place.... unplanned?

Sure thing.... In fact, at Folsom or IML it happened at least 2 - 3 times per day.

21. Which race of men do you prefer to work with, or does it matter?

Race doesn't matter to me. What a coincidence, huh? Race doesn't matter to Race. I like hot guys of all colors... and when it's a work thing, the only thing that matters is attraction, chemistry, and a check at the end of the day.

Super Oink Alert! Jason Adonis' first interracial!

A long time ago... before we filmed this scene... Jason Adonis had mentioned to the bloggosphere, that he was very interested in filming an interracial scene. Had no idea that he meant he wanted to fuck me.... but when I got the call to do it.... I said, "HELL YEAH"! We worked great together on this one, and Jason is truly a great performer, and stunningly beautiful. So, enjoy all that is my scene taking away Jason's 'Chocolate Virginity' in Dominus! I especially love how he says in the scene how he loves to suck big black cock.... priceless! :)

Smells like Teenage Spirit mixed with Starbucks.

This seems to be the year of traveling for me. New York, Cologne, Amsterdam, Chicago, and now Seattle... and while I love reviewing the architectural features of airports, I'm getting a little tired of living out of my suitcase. Oh well, pays the bills bitches! Can't complain too much, especially when I get to spend time with Felix in Europe. On deck is Seattle, home of Starbucks, Jimmy Hendrix, and alternative style. I'm shooting a Fetish Force feature directed by my bud Tony Buff. Fucking love that guy! Plus, getting to work with my buds Alessio Romero, Leo Forte, and Chris Yosef, is gonna be sweet too. Get ready Seattle, and hold on to your skim-milk lattes.... Fetish Force is coming to town!

This little piggy squealed... OINK ALERT!

Hey Piglets, I'm proud to announce the second installment of Edger9 on DVD is available... "HARD EDGE!!!" Starring myself along with Wilfried Knight and Mark Williams... this shit is hot! I mean steaming! I get fucked by some massive dick on this, as well as fuck some fresh meat for your pleasure too. Also, available for those of you that need a helping hand of more filth, 'cause your appetites just ain't satisfied... is my new fisting flick "Fist My Gaping Hole". I have a wicked cool scene fisting European fist bottom Ashley Ryder. Man, it was cool cramming my arm up that little guy... I felt like Jim Hensen! Check it out on the sidebar to buy... or at your neighborhood smutty-filth store.

SUPER DUPER OINK ALERT!!! GET ME OFF!

I know the heading is annoying... but trust me piglets... if there's ever a scene that you want to have, and know when I'm enjoying myself sexually beyond anything I've ever done before.... this movie is the one to buy! Truly. No joke. This is the one. I mean, what proves it more than the fact that my scene is with the beautiful and talented Felix Barca, who is now my boyfriend. I never want to watch any of the scenes I shoot usually... It's a weird thing to watch yourself, because you become overly critical, and start pointing out things that you could have done different (like that orgasm face). But with this scene I can't help enjoying it... because I'm totally thinking about how great it was to have sex with my man for the first time. Anyways, enjoy me falling in love on camera... and buy "Get Me Off!".

The Best Dressed Award

Hey Piglets, just got back from the Grabbys... and I had tons of fun, hanging with my porn peeps. I won Best Ethnic Movie for Steamworks.... YAY! Which is pretty sweet, since none of us working on it, thought of it as an ethnic movie. Now piglets.... because you know I'm a fashion whore, it's not surprising that I took the opportunity to get a fashion designer friend of mine, to design something slutty for me.... and I'm glad I did. People really liked my take on slutty-english-gentleman... which others described as Slutty Clockwork Orange, or Slutty Cabaret.... Whatever. They liked seeing me show my ass! Which surpisingly enough was the only ass that was shown off that night. Chicago's decency laws are so weird. Especially taking into account people can ride motorcycles with no helmet. I mean, where the fuck is the decency in heads squashed like melons on hard pavement in a traffic accident? HUH?? Anyways, here's some pics from the weekend (Grabbys photos courtesy of T-ball). Enjoy!

The Pied Piper of Pigdom

Hey Piglets, well I can finally reveal all.... Yes, I'm on the Folsom Fair campaign this year. Had to keep it mum, until the powers that be for Folsom Fair said it was okay, but I'm happy to be able to share the images now. It's pretty fucking sweet! My mug is going to be fucking everwhere this Folsom! Not to mention at all the other Leather Pride events around the country and the world. Awesome!

The NERDS will have their REVENGE!

I did it, piglets... I started my own monthly party. I've dabbled in working behind the scenes at parties, organizing events, and dancing at them.... it was about time I did my own. So, here it is... my excuse to do something fun, and force all my my friends to dress nerdy... or as I like to say.... Be nerdalicious! Drinks, contests, hot music... that's my version of fun. Starts Saturday, June 4th at 9pm, at the new bar KOK! Bring your nerd attire or a valid library card. If you're in San Francisco, you don't want to miss it! NERD!!!